I have worked with many children and you can always tell which ones always get their way at home. It makes our job a whole lot harder. Parents, please don’t always give your children what they want. It is okay to say no. You will make them into better people if you don’t always give them what they want. If you give them everything they want, they will walk all over you. They will not listen to you and they will cry when they don’t get something they want. Never bribe a child to do things. If they are misbehaving, don’t promise them candy if they start behaving correctly. They don’t deserve it. Yeah, you can reward them but only when they are behaving the right way. Here are some tips:
1. Give them some independence.
2. Don’t be their best friend. Parents are afraid that their kids won’t like them. Being a true parent means that sometimes you have to lay down the rules, and oftentimes your child won’t like that. Kids don’t need a best friend, they need an authority figure. Kids really do want structure and guidance.
3. Don’t automatically take their side. Listen to the whole story and don’t get defensive when someone criticizes your child.
4. Make them work for what they get. Don’t buy them everything they want. If you do that, you are conditioning them to the idea that if they whine, they’ll get what they want. Encourage your children to work for what they want.